WANT: Women Against Negative Talk

Women Against Negative Talk: WANT –  a site started by Katie Horwitch.

Looking for confidence?

Lynn Chen

I’ll tell ya…I couldn’t find mine for a long time.  Even with a Women’s Studies degree.  I felt small, unimportant.  And I probably picked the worst industry to immerse myself in.

For the last six years, I have made a conscious effort to banish negative talk.  I’ve done it with my language around food, I’ve done it with my career, I’ve done it with my personal life.  It’s hard work.  And of course, it still creeps up constantly: “You’re not enough.”  “Who do you think you are?”  “You used to be…now you’re…”

That’s why I’m so grateful that Katie Joy Horwitch created WANT: Women Against Negative Talk.  Katie and I are OG blogging buddies (click here to see her first appearance on T.A.D.) and we’ve watched each other stumble and grow virtually over the years.  Katie has created a safe place for us to navigate this strange, fragile state of “being positive.”  It isn’t merely just grabbing confidence by the balls, even when you don’t feel like it.

I don’t know all the answers, but I do know confidence can’t be felt when you’re feeding it bullshit.

You can read more of my thoughts in our interview.  You can hear them in our podcast interview, too.  And if you’re in Los Angeles, I’ll be speaking at the WANT/cARTel/No Budget Film Festival pop-up event How to Survive While Making It this Saturday, 1pm, at Art Share LA.  It’s free and I hope to see some of you there!


6 thoughts on “WANT: Women Against Negative Talk

  1. Viola Pastuszyn

    The times when it’s happened randomly, when all the hormones and stars aligned and my confidence was just spilling over – damn, you feel like you can rule the world! It would be amazing to feel that way all the time. (and fyi – I subscribed, but I am still getting the pop-up).

  2. Courtney Hong

    wish I could make it to meet you in person finally! thoroughly enjoyed reading the interview, including the part about making a triple layer Lemon Chiffon Cake out of lemons. 😉 i struggle with comparison, and am working toward loving all of me to better love others too. and yes, there will always be more/the best is yet to come!

  3. Alissa

    Enjoyed the interview, Lynn. This really resonated with me: “When I truly love all of myself… I’m able to truly love all of others, which is really all I want to do.”
    It took me a long time to “get” that the reason I expected so much of others, and wasn’t as compassionate as I wanted to be, was that I was so critical and uncompassionate with myself.

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