Beach, Library, Hospital

September 18, 2012

in bakeries/cafes/dessert places, daddy, salads, sandwich

Almost every single day it seems I talk to someone I know who’s lost a parent. I’m not sure why it’s so surprising – death is as much a part of life as living is…and what I’m learning from all my friends is that everyone grieves differently. I’ve found for myself that an important part of mourning my father has been revisiting things that remind me of the most difficult times surrounding his death, and feeling whatever comes up – pain, sadness, anger, helplessness, numbness, guilt….it’s not for everyone, and it is indeed emotional, but in the end I’m glad I’m taking the time to do it. I have heard from several readers that they’ve recently lost a loved one so I’m hoping sharing what’s working for me may help someone else.

Despite having horrible insomnia last night, I really wanted to see Elise for our planned walk. She was the last person I had seen before I discovered my father’s surgery had gone awry, and I felt it was important to reconnect. So I dragged my sleep-deprived ass out of bed to Santa Monica for an hour…

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…then over to the Beverly Hills Library, where my life changed forever.

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Construction is coming along…slowly, as with me…

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…just like that fateful day, the only thing on my mind is the hospital – but this time it’s for something wonderful…Christy and Jeff had their baby last night!!!

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I looked up sandwich places near Cedars Sinai to pick them up some lunch, and found Soda Pop’s LA

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…free parking AND wifi!!! I’m in love.

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For myself, I ordered The Weho salad.

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It was delicious! I only ended up using about 2/3 of the dressing….

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…and got a really nice view of some vintage bottle caps…

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…though there are plenty of televisions to keep you distracted, too.

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The sandwiches actually reminded me of my favorite place near New England Music Camp. I can’t remember the name of it, though!

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The guys at the counter were kind enough to display Christy/Jeff’s B.E.L.T.A. ORDER (without the “E”) before wrapping it up…

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…they had incredible-looking homemade chips too but I thought they’d want a side salad.

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Off to meet the newest addition to my life! Crossing my fingers that they’ve named him “Fu-Yen Meacham” but I’m thinking they probably won’t…

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{ 6 comments }

1 Cindy September 18, 2012 at 2:31 pm

Great that you are allowing yourself to grieve in the way that is best for you. That will serve you well as your process changes. How you need to grieve a year from now will likely be very different.

My parents are still living though I lost them from my life years ago. I often wonder what it will be like for me when one of them dies given this death while living form of “relationship” we have. I really have no idea how I will react.

2 Jen Gregory September 18, 2012 at 3:08 pm

Doing what your head and your heart tell you to do is an honest and healthy way to grieve. Feel what you feel and then move on to the next feeling. Thanks, as always, for sharing your journey!

p.s. What did they name the baby? I love hearing new baby names!

3 Lynn @ The Actor's Diet September 19, 2012 at 6:50 am

No name yet. He is still Fu-yen for another day in my mind!

4 Chrissy September 19, 2012 at 9:15 am

Next time in up in Santa Monica/LA I’m going to Soda Pop’s LA. Looks cool!

I am right there with you about losing a parent. I lost my father years ago, and let me tell you the impact never totally subsides, but that’s not to say that you don’t learn and mature from such an event. It’s a part of who I am and it will be a part of who you become, too. Even without a father, I am blessed beyond belief.

5 Lynn @ The Actor's Diet September 19, 2012 at 9:19 am

Thank you for that – and I’m so sorry for your loss as well….

6 Brigid September 19, 2012 at 4:20 pm

Soda Pop’s is one of the first places I tried when I moved to LA — so random, now that I think about it. I totally forgot about it. We’ll have to go back!

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